Love
This Card Game Is Probably the Reason My Partner and I Started Dating
Get ready to dig deep over dinner.
By Gabrielle Kassel
Hopeless romantic
8 Online Dating Horror Stories From People Who Eventually Found Their Person
“On date three, while playing mini golf at night, he said he didn’t think anyone had gone to the moon.”
By Kayla Blanton
Heart truths
How to Get Over a Breakup, Even When It Feels Impossible
Yes, time helps—but these tips can make the process a little less painful.
By Jenna Ryu and Nicole Pajer
Oh my word
How to Talk Dirty During Sex Without Feeling Cringey
Experts offer ideas for things to say—plus tips for getting out of your own head in the moment.
By Erica Sloan
Who's a good girl?
Are You Seriously Turned On By Validation? Here’s How to Explore a Praise Kink in Bed
There’s nothing like a steady stream of compliments to make good sex fantastic.
By Erica Sloan
- Health
Here’s How to Properly Clean Your Sex Toys
Yes, you have to do this. No, it doesn’t have to be a hassle.By Kathleen Felton and Lindsey Lanquist - Buzz-worthy
This 3-in-1 Vibrator Makes It Easy to Switch It Up in Bed
I found a beginner-friendly wand that does (almost) everything.By Gabrielle Kassel You’re Gonna Want to Say Yes, Yes, YES to These Clitoral Vibrators
These suction, finger, and wand vibes are ready to show you a good time.27 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Kristin CanningI’ve Tested More Than 100 Wand Vibrators—But This One Is My All-Time Favorite
It won me over in minutes.By Gabrielle Kassel- Love
Your Guide to the Very Best Vibrators Out There
We've got options for all, whether you’re new to toys or just looking for something more fun.46 slidesBy Sarah Madaus and Gabrielle Kassel - Love
The Best Vibrators on Amazon That Reviewers Can’t Stop Buzzing About
They’ll ship quickly and definitely deliver.26 slidesBy Kristin Canning Yes, Sex Furniture Is a Thing—Here Are 33 Functional Options We Love
It could be just what you need to spice things up.By Sarah Madaus and Gabrielle Kassel17 Hot Ways to Stimulate Your Clit for an Amazing Orgasm
There’s so much more than your basic nub-rub to try.By Erica Sloan- Buzz worthy
15 Wand Vibrators That’ll Hit All the Right Spots
Try them on clits, nipples, penises, butts—anywhere you want to feel a nice buzz.16 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Jessica Kasparian 12 Strap-Ons That Are Great From Top to Bottom
Including beginner-friendly options and upgrades for experienced users.13 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Sara Coughlin
Giving Your Partner the Silent Treatment Isn’t Just Petty—It’s Actually Really Toxic
Of course you feel dehumanized and insecure when someone pretends you don’t even exist.
By Jenna Ryu
Treasure chest
How to Have a Fantastic Nipple Orgasm Because, Yep, That’s a Thing
It’s all about making your boobs the main event—not the sideshow.
By Erica Sloan
Match made in heaven
Meet the Adorable Tennis Power Couples Competing at This Year’s US Open
“The only thing that counts in my life is going up in the boyfriend rankings.”
By Jenna Ryu
Bawl busters
How to Stop Crying During Any Kind of Confrontation
Shedding tears is a natural reaction to conflict, but these tips can help when you’d rather not.
By Julia Ries
Ex-streamly hot
17 Incredibly Sexy Movies You Can Watch on Hulu Right Now
Get ready to settle in for a titillating evening at home—alone or with a partner.
By Katie Way and Samantha Vincenty
7 People on Why They Chose to Be Celibate for a Spell
“This break ended up being a wake-up call: Most of the people I was seeing didn’t really care about my pleasure.”
By Jenna Ryu
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Life
How to Deal With Being the Only Single Person in Your Friend Group
If third-wheeling is bumming you out, read this.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Get Your Partner to Talk About Their Feelings and Emotions More
You can’t totally change their perspective, but you can make them more comfortable with vulnerability.
By Julia Ries
Love
What to Do If You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives
Your relationship isn’t doomed, but it’s important to address it to keep resentment from building up.
By Jenna Ryu
A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging
Ready to take butt stuff to a whole new level? Here’s how to try it.
By Erica Sloan
9 Very Hot Non-Penetrative Sex Ideas
If you can’t—or don’t want to—get it in, we’ve got some moves that’ll still get you off.
By Erica Sloan
Life
How to Make Friends With Other Couples
You might have to look outside your social circle to find The Ones.
By Julia Ries
Life
What to Do If Your People-Focused Job Completely Drains Your Social Battery
These little strategies can help you preserve some energy for your loved ones—and yourself.
By Jessica A. Gold, MD
Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu
Hot mama
How to Feel Horny Again as a New Mom
Remember that you won’t be sexless and covered in spit-up forever.
By Kathleen Felton
Super Soaker
So You Want to Learn How to Squirt During Sex
A step-by-step guide to turning on the water works.
By Erica Sloan
How to Try Edging, the Sex Technique That Takes Teasing to a Whole New Level
Drawing out the buildup to an orgasm can be incredibly hot.
By Erica Sloan
What to Do If IBS Is Shitting on Your Sex Life
GI symptoms always seem to show up at the worst possible times.
By Erica Sloan
The Best Lubes for Smooth Sailing Alone or With a Partner
Loved by both experts and shoppers.
11 slides
By Malia Griggs and Sarah Felbin