Dating
Love
‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
Big little lies
9 People on the Signs of Cheating They Wish They’d Paid Attention to Sooner
“Although she posted selfies with her friends almost daily, she would never point the camera at me.”
By Jenna Ryu
Dating in Your 30s Is Hard Enough—Here’s What It’s Like If You Also Have Breast Cancer
One guy told me, “I just get uncomfortable with needles and doctors and stuff like that.”
By Caroline Reilly
What to Do If ADHD Is Messing With Your Love Life
Being late to dates, forgetting to text, and blanking on names can hurt a budding romance.
By Julia Sullivan
Words of diss-couragement
The One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup
It’s a well-meaning comment, but it can make your heartbroken buddy feel worse.
By Jenna Ryu
This Card Game Is Probably the Reason My Partner and I Started Dating
Get ready to dig deep over dinner.
By Gabrielle Kassel
Hopeless romantic
8 Online Dating Horror Stories From People Who Eventually Found Their Person
“On date three, while playing mini golf at night, he said he didn’t think anyone had gone to the moon.”
By Kayla Blanton
Heart truths
How to Get Over a Breakup, Even When It Feels Impossible
Yes, time helps—but these tips can make the process a little less painful.
By Jenna Ryu and Nicole Pajer
7 People on Why They Chose to Be Celibate for a Spell
“This break ended up being a wake-up call: Most of the people I was seeing didn’t really care about my pleasure.”
By Jenna Ryu
Life
How to Deal With Being the Only Single Person in Your Friend Group
If third-wheeling is bumming you out, read this.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
What Does ‘Enough’ Sex Really Look Like in a Healthy Relationship?
Is once a week really the sweet spot? We asked experts to weigh in.
By Jenna Ryu
SELF Daily
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How Dating With a Chronic Illness Taught Me Not to Settle for Less
The stigma is real, but I had to stop thinking of myself as “damaged goods.”
By Caroline Reilly
14 Non-Corny Ways to Feel Much Closer to Your Partner
Ask them for advice, sleep in their clothes, and sneak a candy bar into their work bag.
By Amy Rose Spiegel
Love
How to Get Really, Really Good at Kissing
Tips about form, technique, and all things tongue.
By Nikki Campo and Gigi Engle
Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
By Jenna Ryu
Love
6 Not-Obvious Signs You’re Falling Out of Love With Your Partner
There’s a difference between needing a little space and fantasizing about a separate life.
By Jenna Ryu
I’m a Woman Living With HS. Here’s How I Navigate Dating and Relationships
“I wanted to be straightforward about it and got stood up for the date.”
By Julia Craven
Love
The One Thing You Should Never Do When Your Partner Is Annoying You
If you actually want them to change their ways, you have to be strategic.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
I Have a Great Partner—So Why Do I Still Feel Lonely?
You don’t have to be by yourself to feel disconnected.
By Stephanie Hallett
Love
Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Here’s What Couples Therapists Think
If you’re paranoid about your S.O.—or judging your friend for taking back an unfaithful partner—read this.
By Jenna Ryu
She shoots, she scores
The Teammates-to-Dating Pipeline in Women’s Sports Is Very Real—And Very Cute
It gets a bit more complicated when your wife gets traded and becomes your fiercest competition.
By Frankie de la Cretaz
Business etiquette
What Are the Rules for Talking About Your Sex Life With Friends?
Sharing dirty details can be fun (and healthy!) but it’s important to respect everyone’s boundaries.
By Carina Hsieh
Exposure therapy
How to Really, Actually Feel Better Naked
Insecurity is normal, but at a certain point, it can keep you from enjoying life to the fullest.
By Carina Hsieh
Love
How to Get Back Into Dating After a Long-Term Relationship Crumbles
Keep an open mind. Ask the right questions. Know that you’ve got this.
By Jenna Ryu
Down bad
Why Does Having a Crush Put Me in Utter Mental Hell?
Has a hot person turned you, a confident adult, into an Instagram-refreshing buffoon? Blame your brain chemistry.
By Carina Hsieh