Relationships
Giving Your Partner the Silent Treatment Isn’t Just Petty—It’s Actually Really Toxic
Of course you feel dehumanized and insecure when someone pretends you don’t even exist.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Get Your Partner to Talk About Their Feelings and Emotions More
You can’t totally change their perspective, but you can make them more comfortable with vulnerability.
By Julia Ries
Losing battle
5 Signs You and Your Partner’s Arguments Are Unhealthy
If one of you regularly employs the silent treatment, that’s a problem.
By Julia Ries
Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
By Kayla Blanton
The 41 Best Anniversary Gifts by Year for Any Couple
Thoughtful, romantic presents for both partners.By Malia Griggs and Elsa Cavazos47 Gifts for Boyfriends That Aren’t Whiskey Stones
Cool presents that speak to their interests (not Don Draper’s).47 slidesBy Tasneem Anjarwalla and Sara Coughlin46 Thoughtful Gifts for Every Guy in Your Life
For Father's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, or just because.By Jessica Kasparian and Sara Coughlin
Match made in heaven
Meet the Adorable Tennis Power Couples Competing at This Year’s US Open
“The only thing that counts in my life is going up in the boyfriend rankings.”
By Jenna Ryu
Bawl busters
How to Stop Crying During Any Kind of Confrontation
Shedding tears is a natural reaction to conflict, but these tips can help when you’d rather not.
By Julia Ries
Heart truths
How to Get Over a Breakup, Even When It Feels Impossible
Yes, time helps—but these tips can make the process a little less painful.
By Jenna Ryu and Nicole Pajer
Love
What to Do If You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives
Your relationship isn’t doomed, but it’s important to address it to keep resentment from building up.
By Jenna Ryu
9 Very Hot Non-Penetrative Sex Ideas
If you can’t—or don’t want to—get it in, we’ve got some moves that’ll still get you off.
By Erica Sloan
Life
How to Make Friends With Other Couples
You might have to look outside your social circle to find The Ones.
By Julia Ries
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Life
What to Do If Your People-Focused Job Completely Drains Your Social Battery
These little strategies can help you preserve some energy for your loved ones—and yourself.
By Jessica A. Gold, MD
Love
What Does ‘Enough’ Sex Really Look Like in a Healthy Relationship?
Is once a week really the sweet spot? We asked experts to weigh in.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
14 Non-Corny Ways to Feel Much Closer to Your Partner
Ask them for advice, sleep in their clothes, and sneak a candy bar into their work bag.
By Amy Rose Spiegel
Love
How to Get Really, Really Good at Kissing
Tips about form, technique, and all things tongue.
By Nikki Campo and Gigi Engle
Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
By Jenna Ryu
Love
6 Not-Obvious Signs You’re Falling Out of Love With Your Partner
There’s a difference between needing a little space and fantasizing about a separate life.
By Jenna Ryu
State of the union
Scheduling a Weekly ‘House Meeting’ With My Partner Changed My Damn Life
Now we save the stressful stuff for our check-ins so we can actually enjoy our couch time and date nights.
By Julia Ries
Life
How to Be a Genuinely Good Listener
Just because you can technically hear someone, doesn’t mean they feel heard.
By Anna Borges
Love
The One Thing You Should Never Do When Your Partner Is Annoying You
If you actually want them to change their ways, you have to be strategic.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
I Have a Great Partner—So Why Do I Still Feel Lonely?
You don’t have to be by yourself to feel disconnected.
By Stephanie Hallett
Words of diss-couragement
The One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup
It’s a well-meaning comment, but it can make your heartbroken buddy feel worse.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Here’s What Couples Therapists Think
If you’re paranoid about your S.O.—or judging your friend for taking back an unfaithful partner—read this.
By Jenna Ryu
Mind blowing
How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex So You Can Actually Enjoy It
Whether you’re wondering what your partner thinks of your body or worried that you’ll never come.
By Anna Borges